My last post of an easy marriage tip was very popular, so here's another. Sometimes problem solving isn't super-deep. Sometimes it's more practical and everyday. So here it is. 1. You're having a disagreement with your spouse about something, and things are going nowhere, perhaps about to get heated. Terrible escalations often start with the dumbest things, so let's say it's a disagreement over what movie to watch tonight. 2. One of you realizes it's going south, and says, "L

There is often a lot of complex work that goes into marriage therapy. But sometimes I find that direct advice can go a long way. So I'd like to share the piece of direct advice I share with husbands just about every time I do marriage therapy. It has to do with problem-solving. As men, we are hard-wired to "fix it." Outline the problem, find the solution, apply the solution, and don't waste time talking--get it done, get on with the day. This can be a great way to solve probl

It takes enough "moxie" to admit that there is a problem in your life that needs addressing. Once you've recognized that, calling a therapist can be just as daunting. So admitting it is hard. Perhaps it's a marriage difficulty, or perhaps it's depression. Perhaps you were abused or neglected as a child, and have tried for years to "move past it." Perhaps the problem is a touchy subject for you, or something you don't want anyone to know about. In any of these cases, simply ad